It’s in these moments, the real-time, real-life moments of deep seeing and even deeper knowing, that intimacy is found—even cultivated. Anyone can present their best on a date. Anyone can display their carefully postured “worst” on social media. True intimacy is in the enjoyment of transparent presence. It is the vulnerable delight of deep knowing. But even this kind of relational intimacy with the ones we allow in can disappoint us. Jimmy and I have now been married for more than fifteen years.